As partners, we all want to be there for each other in good times and bad. When our loved one is going through a tough time, it’s natural to want to provide support and encouragement to help them overcome their challenges. However, it’s also important to know when to draw the line and allow your partner to take control of their own situation. This can be especially tricky for women, who are often natural nurturers and may find themselves crossing into areas where they should be stepping back.
One example is when a partner is dealing with a difficult situation from their past but is affecting their current life. Such as the emotional wounds from a tumultuous situation with a family member or loved one. A mental health professional is licensed for these such things. Not you….even if you are a mental health professional.
It’s not your job as a partner to find a therapist and make an appointment for them. If your partner is truly serious about seeking help, it’s as simple as doing their own research and setting up the appointment. By enabling your partner, you can end up feeling resentful or like you’re carrying the entire burden of their healing process.
It’s important to remember that your partner is just as capable as you are. If there’s a reason they can’t handle a situation on their own, that’s a different story. If they can handle it, but haven’t taken the steps necessary, that’s a sign that it may not be as important to them as it should be.
Allowing your partner to take responsibility for their own actions and healing process is not only fair to them, but helps them grow and mature. By letting your partner show you what’s important to them through their actions, you can focus on what’s actually your own responsibility.
It’s time to put down some of the burdens that you’re carrying for your partner and focus on your own mental health and well-being. Supporting your partner through difficult times is important, but it’s equally important to know when to step back and let them take control.
Beautiful ones, it’s a delicate balance between helping and enabling your partner. By allowing them to take responsibility for their own actions and challenges, you’re supporting their growth and improving your own mental health and well-being in the process.
